Ten Spiritual Principles of Discipline
Wisdom I Learned from My Teacher, Avatara Adi Da
8. Most problems are pre-solved, not solved.
It is the art and consciousness of the adult to foresee any possible problems or conflicts in the physical and emotional domains. If the adult applies the enquiry, "Could I have done something to prevent this?" at the discovery of every problem, he or she will be quickly educated to pre-solving. This means we take deep responsibility for problems and conflicts, even those conflicts that seem to be "outside" us. When we take responsibility for the tendency to externalize, we see the world and people most clearly. By such clear responsibility, we easily oblige our children to take a growing responsibility for their experience.